A guide to · Family building

Donor Sperm

A path more people take than the internet makes it look — and one with a surprising amount of structure once you know where to look.

01 — What is it

Using sperm from a known or anonymous donor for IUI or IVF. Banks, screenings, legal contracts, sibling registries — a real ecosystem with real choices to make.

02 — Who typically considers it

  • 01

    Single parents by choice.

  • 02

    Same-sex couples building their families.

  • 03

    Couples navigating severe male-factor infertility.

03 — Common misconceptions

The myth

"Anonymous means anonymous forever."

The reality

DNA databases have rewritten that assumption. Plan with openness in mind, even if you start private.

The myth

"All sperm banks are equivalent."

The reality

Screening rigor, donor information, and limits on family numbers vary widely. The bank matters.

04 — Questions people often ask

  • What's the family limit per donor at this bank?

  • Open ID vs anonymous — what do families I trust recommend?

  • What legal paperwork do I need in my state?

05 — Real stories

"Picking a donor wasn't romantic. It was research. Colette helped me know what to weigh."
Robin, 38 · Pregnant via IUI, cycle two.

06 — What decisions typically come next

  1. Open ID, known, or anonymous donor.

  2. How to talk about origin story with a future child.

  3. Sibling registry participation.

When you're ready

Colette walks you through this path, one decision at a time.

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